Switching gears...

I have a problem deciding between believing in what's just supposed to happen for a reason, and what happens because of the choices you've made. For instance, you were born at that time and place, for a reason...you found someone you loved, for a reason. When good happens to you, it's because you were in the right place at the right time and that's just what was supposed to happen, for a reason.  If you find that one true love, you happened to be in the right place at the right time.

On the other hand, I'm where I am because of the choices I've made in my life.  How do I accept the choices I've made and where they have led me and still accept that I am where I'm supposed to be because that's where life decided I needed to be right now?

What if I missed out on my one true love years ago because I made some bad choices in my life?

Isn't it really just about being happy with who you're with at this moment?  And if that's true, doesn't it mean there is no such thing as true love?

I want to believe I'm going to find that one person that I can make happy for the rest of her life, but those examples are few.  Also far between (never miss out on a good cliche when it presents itself).

It's a bunch of hooey.  There are couples that get to live their lives with their soul-mates.  I know of two couples.  One half of one of those couples is one of my best friends, and he has taught me more about being a good person than anyone except my dad.  He has the life I always dreamed of having.  Unfortunately, my decisions have kept me from having that life.  I have no one to blame but me.

Maybe that's the lesson.  Be a good person.  Find a good person you're attracted to, and just keep being good people.

There are things I need to work on, but what if I did miss the woman I was supposed to be with sometime back then when I was making bad decisions?  How do you know?
Are you where you are because of fate or because of the decisions you've made in your life?